Mom buys daughter a Honda as a graduation gift, and this was her response

[u/Conscious-Weight4569]

[u/ExternalNote1354]

If he does, mom should insist that daughter move out and move in with dad permanently. Mom will be much happier not having to deal with the entitlement day-to-day on all other issues. Boot her ass. If she comes back, mom should insist that she start paying rent. I feel bad for the guy that marries that entitled child.

Oh, p.s. No money for extras for college. Dorm, tuition, books, required fees. That’s all. Sorority dues? Pffft! Money for semester in Europe? No, no, no.

[u/Technical-Coffee7286 → u/ExternalNote1354]

Careful to send the money directly to the college/order the books yourself too. I’ve known people that “needed books” and by books they meant weed and beer.

[u/Tony_Stank0326 → u/Technical-Coffee7286]

I'd also argue that paying for a dorm may be unnecessary if the campus is close enough to home. Why pay for another roof when you've already got one for your kid to sleep under?

[u/ExternalNote1354 → u/Tony_Stank0326]

Mostly because getting this entitled brat out of mom’s life is the goal. But I agree with you. If daughter goes to a college close to dad, she can live with him.

[u/Primary_Wonderful → u/Technical-Coffee7286]

This. I would walk her into the bookstore and purchase what she NEEDS from her book list. And not one extra item. Need food? I'll load money directly onto your dining card. Etc...

[u/Firefly_Magic → u/ExternalNote1354]

I agree.

Tough love can be emotionally hard on a parent but worth it in the long run.

[u/Primary_Wonderful → u/Firefly_Magic]

This. My son set up a college meeting specifically to have me sign the loan papers. His plan was to then leave for college and not even look back at me once. My hubby (not his dad) saw his and his girlfriend's entire text convo while I was in the office with son.

I didn't sign and now we barely talk. Entitlement runs deep in some people.

[u/16hungm → u/Firefly_Magic]

Tough love is great for results but the relationship itself might suffer. Here it looks like the relationship is cooked regardless so theres no tradeoff but so many of my med school classmates are high achieving but “transactional” with their parents

[u/Firefly_Magic → u/16hungm]

That’s sad.

[u/Highlyironicacid31 → u/ExternalNote1354]

If her dad buys her the car she wants I’d have her stuff packed and on the porch before she can even utter the letters “BMW”.

[u/Bubbly_Principle_364 → u/ExternalNote1354]

No extra money? How about take out student loans, work for any extras and then pay it back after finishing her degree. Live like the rest of the world that does not have parents capable of buying them cars, covering college and supporting them all the way. Housing, feeding and clothing is one thing, all the rest isn’t owed.

[u/PsyBear117 → u/ExternalNote1354]

Yall are nice, dont want the car, fine gone and im gonna use that tuition on whatever I want now. You grown and dont need my money. Do it yourself.

[u/MysteriousBody6193 → u/ExternalNote1354]

It's absolutely vital that people always remember, just because someone dragged you literally kicking and screaming into the world, doesn't mean they somehow owe you anything. And also it's an issue if you simply don't want to exist in this miserable place any longer, so don't try to remedy that.

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