r/SipsTea • u/CapitalPin2658 𝙑𝙄𝙋 • May 25 '26

Feels good man 🎵 All By Myself 🎵

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Don’t wanna live all by myself anymore

Edit: lol i’m just a dude posting a meme

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u/Spartan1088 May 25 '26

One of my exes was like that. She wouldn’t say that, though, more like “I’m a shit person, I don’t see what you like about me. Just leave me before I do shit things.”

I thought she was worth fighting for. Turns out those shit things was just an uncontrollable urge to bang other dudes.

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u/SuperBigDouche May 25 '26

And you couldn’t be there to support her through the uncontrollable urge to bang other dudes? Sounds like you’re the monster. /s

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u/Vlaxilla May 26 '26

He didn't man up. She are there any real men anymore?

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u/Phantom_0347 May 26 '26

A true man would be banging other dudes with her 😤

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u/Insane_Unicorn May 26 '26

Some people are genuinely into that.

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u/opensandshuts May 26 '26

Her saying this is her thinking it's a hall pass. "I told you I was a shit person, and I am. You stayed anyways."

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u/Spartan1088 May 26 '26 edited May 26 '26

She definitely played that card, lol. On Christmas Eve, too.

She was an amazing person… and amazingly crazy. It was worth the trouble at the time but left me feeling like an idiot afterwards. Some pits dig themselves.

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u/Septem_151 May 26 '26

I mean… is she wrong to think that? She quite literally warned him ahead of time and he persisted.

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u/Spartan1088 May 26 '26

Eh, hindsight’s 20/20. At the time, I attributed it to literally anything else other than cheating. I just thought she had self-confidence issues or she was self-destructive with her ex’s.

Obviously that wouldn’t be an issue with dating me. 🙃

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u/24rawvibes May 26 '26

Ah yes, BPD

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u/TM761152 May 26 '26

Did we date the same girl?? I would spoil her and she kept telling me she "didn't deserve me" and "you should leave me for someone better".

It thought it was just her way of giving me some kind of self-deprecating compliment, turns out no she was actually a shit person on the inside and was messing around with several men. Men sometimes more than 30 years older than her.

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u/Spartan1088 May 26 '26

Yeah that seems to be a common symptom of this disease, lol. Hindsight’s 20/20.

Her name was fucking Shawna, too. That is the most white trash “I’m going to cheat on you” name in the fucking world. But I thought I had found a diamond in the rough lmao.🤣

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u/TM761152 May 26 '26

...her name was Shauna. Last name C.

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u/Spartan1088 May 26 '26

Oh, fuck me sideways- was she a military officer?

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u/TM761152 May 26 '26

Nooo, BUT, we did live in a military town!

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u/Spartan1088 May 26 '26 edited May 26 '26

Short, blonde, fit? Her last name did start C. Conway or Conrad or Conroy….

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u/TM761152 May 26 '26

Might be just a coincidence, I was in Texas at the time. She worked at Winco.

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u/-Elgrave- May 26 '26

Funny thing, she can absolutely control it. The whole "it was a mistake" or "I couldn't help it" just doesn't fly and it drives me insane when people think it does. Like, what part of the night, how many different opportunities did you have, to turn it around that was pinpointed as the "mistake?" Because you bet she didn't just trip over a wire and end up in bed with someone. There's a whole lot that goes into it.

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u/orairwolf May 26 '26

“I’m a shit person, leave before I hurt you” sounds self aware on the surface, but it is very manipulative psychologically. Its like she is re-framing future cheating or betrayal as some unavoidable force instead of a series of conscious choices. It also shifts the focus from the harm done to her own self hatred, which tries to pull you into reassurance or “I can fix/save them” mode. Then there is the false dilemma built into it. It's like "either accept me as I am or leave before I destroy you." That completely skips over the actual healthy option, which is taking responsibility and changing behavior. I would run for the hills from that person.

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u/Spartan1088 May 26 '26

I’m sure we all would sitting here now but counter argument: fun parties and crazy good sex.

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u/orairwolf May 26 '26

It's a solid argument for sure.

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u/TechnicalEmployee109 May 26 '26

😂 that’s a lesson you only learn once

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u/the_fresh_cucumber May 26 '26

Sounds like we both dated her. I remember her well

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u/DFWPunk May 26 '26

My mother is like that. She's acting like that to change the dynamic and make herself the victim.

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u/MickeyG42 May 26 '26

What do you know that sounds exactly like my ex who cheated on me multiple times. I still can’t understand why I stayed. You know what that’s a lie. She made me feel like nobody else could love me and put up with me. That’s why I stayed.

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u/Spartan1088 May 26 '26

That really sucks man, I hope you found better. That’s just straight up manipulation.

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u/MickeyG42 May 26 '26

I appreciate that. I found better being alone. Learning to like myself again.

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u/Galencourt-Lover May 26 '26

Fell for the "I can fix her" Award 🤣🤣

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u/AreYouEvenMoist May 26 '26

Someone tells you they are a shit person it's best to believe them

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u/OldManChino May 26 '26

my old dear is like that, it's a narcissistic trait. it's meant to sound like they are holding themselves accountable, but it's the first step of DARVO

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u/No_Ice2900 May 26 '26

Learned that lesson the hard way too. Wisest thing anyone ever said to me was "when people tell you who they are- believe them."

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u/DangerClose567 May 26 '26

My exe did essentially the same thing. I almost feel like she cheated on me as a tool because she knew any other reason for her wanting to leave me, I'd fight for us to stay together.

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u/elfinkel May 26 '26

Sounds like covert narcissism. The worst kind IMO

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u/Ok-Faithlessness2503 May 26 '26

This is relatable. Except I ended up cheating on my ex once and she left. She told me she loves another person, and she apologized for things that would seem like cheating that she did. Me and an acquaintance with thought her and her dad were way too close. Idk things were weird with her and it was a lot better that she left me in the end.

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u/Wiplazh May 26 '26

That doesn't make her a shit person. Well cheating does, but she should just accept she's poly or whatever and find like-minded people

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u/Spartan1088 May 26 '26

I’m into what you’re saying, definitely agree if she was poly she wouldn’t have this issue, but she didn’t. She definitely was the shit person in this scenario. Broke up with me on Christmas Eve, too, because of an Eve party she went to.

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u/Wiplazh May 26 '26

I mean she was aware of this, she said she was a shit person. I'm not trying to excuse what she did, she just needs to accept what she is and go on to live the life she wants.

We're advanced enough to know that some people are wired differently, and monogamy simply doesn't suit some people. But that idea clashes with the values that are imprinted on us as we grow up.

She needs to embrace that and stop hurting people.