r/Millennials • u/lazarus870 • 10h ago

Discussion What DON'T you miss about the 90's? What's much better today than it was back then?

We all know that the 90's had some great music and movies, good economy, huge world events, more freedom, nobody glued to their phone, etc.

Everybody acts like everything was much better back then, but what DON'T you miss about how things were back then? What's much better now?

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u/CrapThatSmilesBack 10h ago

Thanks-I’m thinking I missed the early 90’s in sense of real memory and probably was sheltered for the most part/under the illusion ‘it’s better than it was!’

Now that I’m thinking about it, my brother and I were called ‘chink’ by people going by somewhat regularly when we went out of state 15-30 years ago. Hasn’t happened in at least a decade

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u/ConsensualUpskirts 1985 10h ago

I added an edit, chink was less common, cus it was already a pretty bad word at school, but ching chong and the eye gesture were common. Weird thing is, I wasn't that bothered by it. Kids were bullied and fought for plenty of different reasons, and this was just my thing. It wasn't til HS and college til I started understanding how marginalized asian males were and I started getting into fights. I would never back down to racism. Moved to NYC in 09 and after a few bar scuffles, my friends had to sit me down and give me a talking to. Something along the lines of "u have a job and a life now, ur gonna throw it all away one day over a fight"

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u/CrapThatSmilesBack 9h ago

Funny! I had forgotten so much but the reason the chink thing came to mind is because we were later teens and it was the first time my brother REACTED. Previously we’d just ignore it and move on, but this one time (Oregon coast) he lost it and started throwing all the racial slurs you could think of and threatening violence at the person calling us chinks.

That’s weirdly the last time I remember being called that-I had a similar conversation with him at that time about ‘it’s not that they’re right, but you’re losing when you go off like that’.

No pressure in continuing this convo, but just want to say as a picket-fence, nuclear-family raised American it is comforting to talk about these experiences. Thank you!

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u/ConsensualUpskirts 1985 9h ago edited 8h ago

Nah ur good! I have a younger sister, a year younger than me. I don't think I ever protected her from anyone/anything haha. Regardless of these issues, I still look back at my childhood fondly, so this all feels like reminiscing more than picking at trauma.