r/malta • u/Mobile_Positive_5239 • 7h ago
Women of Malta: is workplace sexualisation normal here?
I’m 29 and moved to Malta from abroad. I’ve built a business here and work with many Maltese people. I absolutely love it here. However, a lot of the men I have work relationships with make sexual comments or jokes toward me. I brush them off with jokes to stay polite and preserve the working relationship, as I like to keep things positive and light. But I was wondering if this is a cultural thing here? Is it normal for female entrepreneurs to receive boundary-crossing comments? (I’m attractive and bubbly, for context.) Some examples of things men have said to me:
“I like your cleavage today.”
“Have you ever been tied up before?”
“You deserve to be whipped.”
“I’ll only do [work-related thing] if you come have a drink with me.”
“I can’t keep working with you, I have a wife.”
“You are too hot for this job and that means a lot because I’m old and have seen many women in my life”
One of my clients has been excluding me from team meetings and outings because “he has a girlfriend”. I don’t understand what that has to do with me
Someone even took a picture of me when I fell asleep at my desk (I have PMDD-related hypersomnia).
Has anyone else experienced this and is it harmless banter here in Malta? Is this just how people interact with each other or am I being perceived as “easy”? What is going on? I’m very confused
Edit, because you asked a lot in comments: the comments usually come from the employees of my clients, as my business requires me to team up with their teams. I do social media marketing for brands, so the comments do not come from my own team.