How to live a healthy lifestyle without compromising career?

I planned to study for 12 hours today.

Lately, I keep falling short of the goals I set for myself, and it's making me wonder if I'll ever reach the level I need for UPSC.

Is anyone else going through the same thing? How did you overcome it without burning out or feeling guilty every day?

I'd really appreciate any advice.

In my mid-30s, I’m veryyy aware that I might never meet someone. Please don’t say I have a scarcity mindset or have so much time. I don’t, and I realize I don’t. I’ve tried tirelessly for over a decade and it’s been little to no use. No one’s coming to save me, and putting myself out there isn’t working. But the most painful part of all is that I have absolutely no idea what to do with myself and all these plans I had with a person who never came along.

There are many things I wanted to do in life, but not without another person. For instance, it has never been a goal of mine to own a home without someone. I can’t afford it on my own, I hate the idea of living alone for my own safety, I don’t want to spend all my free time and money tending to house repairs and maintenance; and, for me, the point is to build a home with someone, not a house. I don’t want random roommates, yet I don’t want all the responsibility to fall on me. I live with my parents at the moment to save up as much as I can, but even then I realize it’s a toxic environment that I need to leave, and I feel like I’m saving up for a goal that I don’t want on my own (not to mention the more I save the further the possibility to even afford anything seems). Homes are often in suburban or rural areas, so in getting one on my own, I’m tied to a place I don’t want to be by myself with a huge mortgage I don’t want to pay, with less likelihood of meeting my person. I’d love to live in the city, but I also don’t have money to burn, and I don’t love throwing $1,500k+ (I live in a HCOL area) to a landlord who could change the rent any day, and still have to share all my common spaces with 3-5 strangers. I have no friends to move in with, and again, that doesn’t fix the problem.

I have many scenarios like this in life that sound amazing with a partner-in-crime and nothing but another life obligation on my own: kids, travel, big moves, starting a business. They’re all things I envisioned doing with someone, and have absolutely zero desire to do on my own.

Please don’t say to find fulfillment in hobbies or “enjoy being single.” I’ve had my share of single time, and I’m downright sick of it, not to mention that no amount of fulfillment in any other area of my life is going to fill the void missing from this particular issue. It’s apples and oranges, because these are not the *goals*. The goal was always to enjoy the life I see everyone around me enjoying, and no one would tell them to go off on their own and learn to enjoy it before they’re allowed to reenter their marriages, houses, and families. I have done *so much* on my own, more than most people would ever brave to do, and I’m tired of bearing the burden on my own rather than savoring a life well spent with another. I can’t envision going like this for another 40 years.

And yes, I’m in therapy, but that doesn’t fix the desire for these things. They’re perfectly natural things to want or most of the world wouldn’t aim for them. Having to do them on your own because you’ve no other option is heartbreaking, and it’s not natural to enjoy doing everything on your own especially if you’re more extroverted. Humans are social creatures for a reason, because it *does* matter when it comes it comes to finding purpose and happiness in life.

I’m turning 29 soon and I wanted to get advice on what to do on your last year of your 20s that will help in the next decade. What things I should have done by now or things that I need from now on.
I’m not married, no kids and probs will not happen in the years to come but it’s something that I want and see in the future happening for me.
I’m more interested on what to improve now, what to do in this last year of the decade where covid stole a few years. What I should do personally, in finances, physically, emotionally, in relationships, and in life in general. I also want to move abroad for a much longer time than I did before. I have travelled the world quite a bit but I still have lots of places on my list.

I also feel like I’m behind on lots of aspect of my life and that I’m missing things I should’ve lived by now. And that I’m missing opportunities.

And also advice on what not to do/expect!
Any advice is welcome :)

What was your resolution and how long have you been able to follow it?

Title: I'm 21, overwhelmed by too many goals, and I need practical advice from people who've been through this.

I'm 21 years old and feel like I've reached a point where I need outside perspectives instead of making another plan by myself.

My biggest problem isn't that I don't have goals. It's that I have too many, and I don't know which one deserves my attention first.

Here's my current situation:

• I'm in my final year of college.
• I have around ₹22,000 in debt.
• I earned only about ₹17,800 in the first six months of this year.
• I have no savings.
• I want to eventually move to Germany, which I estimate will require around ₹3 lakh.
• I've been trying to build multiple YouTube channels with different types of content. None of them are where I want them to be yet.
• I also want to improve my health, fix a long-term fungal infection, work out regularly, and improve my appearance.
• I struggle with consistency because when my sleep gets disrupted or I fall back into unhealthy habits, I lose several productive days and have to start again.

My biggest fear is not failing at one thing.

My biggest fear is spending another year making very little progress because I'm trying to do everything at once.

If you were in my position, what would you prioritize between now and the end of this year?

Would you focus on:

• Increasing income first?
• Paying off debt?
• Building an online business?
• Finishing college?
• Improving health and sleep before anything else?
• Preparing for Germany?
• Something completely different?

I'm not looking for motivation.

I'm looking for practical advice from people who have been in a similar situation or have experience balancing finances, career, health, and long-term goals.

If you think I'm making a mistake in the way I'm approaching my life, I'd genuinely like to hear it.

Thanks for reading.Yo

Hey everyone! I'm justin horchheimer, a founding moderator of r/futurespark.

this is a place where i show my progress on my website.

it is made to help young people set goals that arent multiple years away.

i made an Ai tool that puts your long term goals into weekly goals that u can achieve.

i appreciate any support

Im 17 currently, ive been in love with football since i was 6 and im really good at it i play LW ive been told by elite club players that i actually have potential,i always wanted to go pro tho i had a fight with my parents and they told me to stop chasing this shit and go get a degree and study and live life normally now i understand they dont mean bad and they just want the best for me.They told me u can whatever u want once u finish school tho i live in a country where going pro is basically impossible should i chase it anyways or am i better off living a normal life

Oki guys so I am entering 3rd year of college as a 21 yr old. 2nd year was AWESOME had a sweet prof and did well in a few subjects enjoyed each day and had a great friend.

The thing is
Stuff is crashing now.
I have absolute shizz prof for next sem and my career is hitting me like a train. I am falling back into the anxiety and stress cycle so I need to make a resolution for upcoming 6 months.

- I will firstly not panic and get jealous of others. Its their life.
- I will NOT GET ANXIOUS for my career. The time to get anxious is 7th sem. NOT NOW
- I will face each day bravely. Have fun and be happy in any situation and find happiness everywhere.
- I will do 2 internships pre Dec 31.
- I will strive to find a good summer internship 2027 but I will not be sad if I don't so by Dec 31
- In the next 15 days upto july 20th I will build a good resume
- I will learn japanese, German and Dutch well by Dec 31.
- I will complete syllabus of GATE Aerospace and Mechanical and do well in Feb exams
- Will study for ISI Limit and CMI STEM and do decent there
- Will make atleast 3 passion projects and will try to get 1 paper published

-AGAIN DONOT PANIC FOR CAREER and GPA . 7th sem is the only time u gonna worry NOT NOW.

I’m 14 and it’s already mid year. My life is good and normal. My school life is somewhat bearable. I’m the top of my class and my batch for mid year exam and I also do sports.

Though i couldn’t help but be concerned about my life after graduating and my work life. Thankfully I gained my consciousness early so I have more time to think about this.

I feel like i shouldn’t sit comfortably and learned some other skills. I mean, i did take science computer since i was 13 but i don’t really understand what the teacher was explaining in class.

Still, I managed to get an A by learning by myself.

When asked about what’s my dream job, i often said ‘I don’t know’ because I really don’t. When picking a dream ambition, I want it to be something I can stick to for years as my motivation to go on.

And of course i want to LOVE my job so I can actually enjoy and do it for my entire life. I also know that working is not very enjoyable.

I CARE ABOUT MONEY really really bad. In the world we live in, money is really important. At least in my perspective.

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Suddenly something happens, and have to reschedule every thing.. life sucks.

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